Hi, we’re Dave and Bethany. Thank you for giving our profile a look! We want to commend you for your courage in considering an adoption plan for your child. We can’t imagine how difficult your decision making is, but we know you have great love for your child in considering the path of adoption. Our own path has also led us to adoption as a way for us to fulfill our dream of growing our family. It is our hope that our unique paths will converge in an adoption that has the best interests of the child at heart.
Our History to Now
We met on the first day of high school. We quickly discovered that we shared a sarcastic sense of humor and a disdain for biology, and became friends. We started dating our senior year, and went to the same college where our relationship continued to grow. Immediately after graduating from college in 2006, we were married.
We had dreamed of having several children together, but after over a year of trying, we were eventually told we are unable to have children naturally. We were crushed. Over the course of the next couple of years, we tried In-Vitro Fertilization procedures twice, which failed both times. We then turned to adoption as a way to grow our family. After two failed matches, we successfully adopted our son, Zachary, in 2018. We’ve loved every moment of being parents to him. Now we’re looking to grow our family again through adoption and give Zachary the chance to be a big brother.
Expectant mothers who choose to make an adoption plan may qualify for some level of financial assistance during their pregnancy. However, each person's situation and specific needs are different. Your adoption social worker can help you determine what level of assistance you qualify for and deserve. Many expectant mothers qualify for financial assistance to cover basic pregnancy and living expenses, including but not limited to - transportation reimbursement, utility assistance for phone, water, and electricity/gas, maternity clothing and supplements, etc.
Navigating a pregnancy alone is never easy. Depending on your situation and location, you may qualify for financial assistance to help cover the cost of basic living expenses, such as food and groceries.
Receiving quality medical care during your pregnancy is vital to both your health and the health of your baby. If you choose to place your baby for adoption, all of your pregnancy-related medical expenses will be covered by the adoptive family.
Women who choose to place their baby for adoption may receive financial assistance to help cover the cost of rent and utilities. If you feel that you’ll need some help with these costs, it’s important to talk to your adoption social worker about it early in the process. Each expectant mother’s situation is different, and eligibility may vary.
In order to have a healthy pregnancy, it’s important that you have everything you need to lead a healthy lifestyle. Like food and groceries, the cost of some household items - like feminine and dental care items, along with prenatal supplements - may be covered during your pregnancy.
Placing a baby for adoption is a loving, but incredibly challenging decision to make. Many women experience an array of emotions during this time and find that counseling is very helpful in navigating those feelings. If you would like to receive counseling during or after your pregnancy, that can be arranged by your adoption social worker. The cost of counseling will be covered by the adoptive family or adoption organization.
If you need assistance with transportation, your adoption social worker can work with you to find the best solution. You may eligible for assistance with transportation costs or be connected with a transportation service to utilize during your pregnancy.
It won't cost you anything. If you choose to place your baby for adoption, all of your medical and legal fees will be covered and you may be eligible for financial assistance with other pregnancy-related expenses.
Yes. Even if you don’t know the identity of the birth father, you can still choose to make an adoption plan. However, every adoption situation is different. The adoption social worker you’re assigned to will get to know you and your story first, and then guide you through the process accordingly.
You can make an adoption plan at any point in your pregnancy, even after the baby has been born. But, it's important to start the process as early in your pregnancy as possible. Connecting with those resources will allow you to gain access to important medical services, including prenatal care, to help ensure a healthy pregnancy.
One aspect of your adoption plan is the "Hospital Plan" an outline of how you'd like your hospital stay and delivery to go. You can craft this on your own or with the help of your adoption social worker. But everything is up to you. You’ll be able to choose who comes to the hospital with you, who is in the room with you during delivery, and how much time you’d like to spend with the baby before signing the final papers.
As part of your adoption plan, you'll determine whether or not you’d like to have an open or closed adoption or something in between. Open adoptions may include phone calls, messaging (via social media, email, or text), and/or periodic visits each year. Closed adoptions may include no contact at all or annual updates provided to the birth parent(s) by the adoptive family. Each post-adoption relationship is different and can vary based on what an expectant mother chooses in her adoption plan.
We try to go on a kid-free trip once every year. Zachary always has a blast of course being spoiled by grandparents all week. We feel it's important to put effort into our marriage as well as our family as a whole. In recent years it has usually been long-weekend hiking trips involving trails that are too difficult to take a kid on (we save the easier destination trails to do as a family). Every 5 years we try to go on a bigger/longer trip for our anniversary. We missed the 5 year, but our 10 year trip was a week in Aruba (also our honeymoon spot). Our 15 year anniversary was supposed to be in Aruba again but... Covid. Ugh. So it ended up being a 16 year anniversary trip to Puerto Rico (since covid is still causing issues for international travel). This was a great time to adventure together and continue to remember all the reasons why we married each other. It keeps us refreshed and our marriage strong. We spent time hiking in El Yunque rainforest, snorkeling and chilling on two of the finest semi-private beaches in the Caribbean, and exploring Old San Juan. It was a...
This is a ridiculous uninspiring picture to update with after a year or so. But I have to start again somewhere! So here it is. Reluctantly I agreed to a train ride at the mall. Only because he had been begging for literally years, and this is the first time since the pandemic that it was open. And I should have known what his reaction would be. The same as it always is to "new" experiences. Straight posture, little movement, dead-pan face betraying zero emotions. 😆 It's so funny but so predictable. Even if he LOVES something, the first experience is always the same. Since he was a baby, always reserving the reaction for later. So I watched him ride repeatedly around in a circle with zero reaction, knowing that once he got off he'd let me know how he really felt. And sure enough, he talked about how great it was for three days straight. 😂
After a long year/winter inside, we've been so happy to finally have some outdoor fun with friends and family! Strawberry picking, hiking, feeding the giraffes and other animals at Keystone Safari animal adventure park, playgrounds, a family beach vacation to the Gulf side of Florida, and a live in-person pro baseball game. It's important to us to stay active, and we're always looking for more and different fun things to do. Outdoor experiences are our favorites and we can't wait to see what this summer holds in store!
One of our favorite ways to celebrate small things is a fancy dinner. We loooove high quality chef-composed dishes with flavors and ingredients we wouldn't normally have at home. We also like to dress up and feel fancy every once in a while. :) This is next to our favorite celebration restaurant on our most recent visit; you can't beat the view!
Normally, we are very much "summer people." But with this winter being extra snowy instead of just cold and yucky, we're definitely enjoying more outside time. Sledding, snowball fights, building snowmen, making snow angels, eating clean snow, and just running and falling and crawling around in the snow have been so much fun!
Like many other people, we absolutely love the general time of year known as "the holidays". It's usually marked by time off work, many family visits, traditions, and a general sense of excitement. This year was certainly scaled down, but was no less enjoyable. We were still able to see most of our nearby family and rejoice in the many blessings this difficult year brought. Everything begins with Thanksgiving, which is done twice in the same day for us. Thanksgiving "lunch" at Bethany's mom's and Thanksgiving "dinner" a few hours later at Dave's parents', both of which include turkey and all the typical sides. Followed by a day of Christmas decorating and shopping. We got almost all of our Christmas gifts online this year, and it was a relief to be mostly done by the time Cyber Monday rolled around. Then a few weeks of finishing details, extra preparations, crafting, and playing in the snow brought us to Christmas. We always end up having 4 major Christmas events and usually a few other smaller ones too. A tapas style dinner with fondue at our house before the Christmas Eve church service, then a late second dinner of ham sandwiches, bobalki,...
Every year in early October we go with family to the pumpkin patch. This year was a little different but we were still able to go, which we are thankful for. That along with some leaf raking, pumpkin carving, and trick-or-treating made for a simple but fun October!
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